My roomie Heather & I had a conversation the other day about the weight of The Big Picture.
It’s like we come up with these dreams & goals for ourselves & then become completely frozen in our tracts by the capacity at what we must complete to have our dream become reality.
Frankly, I think it’s bullshit.
I know you’ve heard it 100s of times. I’ve said it 100s of times - but unless you break up your dreams into smaller bites, it’s going to consume you & not in a positive, contagious way either.
It’s like a bag of bricks you carry around morning, noon & night.
Here is my solution - have a big dream, break down daily into a small list of action steps.
Find a number that resonates with you and make a list each morning of 3,5,7 or 9 things you can take action with that contribute to your big picture. Be sure to not to make your list so long that it is impossible for you to complete in one day. You gotta set yourself up for success here.
Here was my list from Monday:
However, if I hadn’t completed everything on my list, I would have put my energy into CELEBRATING what I had completed.
Anywho - I know you already know all of this. Just wanted to remind you of what was possible in case you were feeling particularly burdened by the weight of your kick-ass dream.
The Mister & I had several appointments yesterday to meet with a few people who are helping us get our wedding together. We left the house around 11:00 a.m. & didn’t get back until 7:45 p.m. or so - I was pooped.
There are very few days I spend running errands all day long.
I work from home, I don’t have kids & the needs of our small family are minimal.
Most of my time is spent sitting in chair in front of my computer or out in the garden playing with my plants. Generally when I do make plans they involve one activity per day.
What can I say, I don’t like overwhelm & I know my limits.
The swirling chaos/fun/adventure/exhaustion of yesterday brought something of significance to my attention.
In the last few months I have been moving & shaking with intention instead of actual goals.
You know, saying I desire to obtain health this year instead of I want to lose 20 lbs.
I wanted to see which left me more motivated & energized- having something specific or something broad & all encompassing.
The chaos of my day yesterday very much related to how I feel when I focus only on intention & not specific goals. I do believe this experience is different for all of us, so I encourage you to try it out both ways & see what works best for you.
For me, only having intention & no real specific result in mind enables the feeling of aimlessly wandering. It’s like I’m out here, walking around, keeping my eyes peeled for what’s next, what’s to love about this moment - but I have no real momentum to get to the next thing.
I also noticed that when I move with intention & no goal - I produce less.
Something else that came of value from this exercise was my increased willingness to surrender. When you only have intention & no real goal in mind it is much easier to let go of the expectation of what your intention looks like when it shows up.
When we create a goal, (like losing 20 lbs.) we have an idea in our head of what 20 lbs. less looks like. So when it actually gets here, if it doesn’t look the same as the image in your head - the reward of getting there isn’t as satisfying. See?
So, point & story. Do what feels good to you. Choose what gives you energy, momentum & excitement. Release attachment to what the outcome looks like & be grateful for each experience.
PS. Thank you ALL so much for you love, support & kind thoughts yesterday with our announcement. I am truly grateful for each of you.
Excuse me! I have an announcement to make... 05/04/2011
I'm getting nervous just thinking about pushing publish on this post. Probably because this is the BIGGEST announcement & commitment I have ever made & sharing it with the world can be a little bit intimidating.
Can I really do this? Am I making the right choice? What if X happens? What if Y happens?
What if...? What if....? What if...?
Man, those things will drive a person crazy.
Perhaps this is the conversation I am not 'suppose' to be having publicly - but I can't cover my authenticity now, when things are just starting to get REALLY juicy. Are you ready for this?
The Mister & I are getting married! Ta da!
I know what you're thinking, what a way to announce something so celebratory - but I have to be honest. This is scary for me. I have total faith in my partner & our commitment to one another (or future commitment) - I suppose my fear comes in from more of a societal stand point rather than a personal one.
That'll be good thing to keep in mind as we move forward. I am stoked about this next chapter in my life & curious to see how it all unfolds. I never really saw myself being THAT GIRL - but here I am & there we go.
That damn money conversation... 05/03/2011
Yesterday morning I was shooting glitter from my finger tips. Magic seemed to be flying all around me - there was no word that could get me down.
The evening time rolls around & then BOOM! The Mister lays it on me that he won’t be working for the next two weeks, (due to circumstances I’ll keep private. Really I just don’t feel like going through the whole story!)
My mental monkies start coming up - in fact, their still here. Which is one of the big reasons I knew this was something I needed to write about.
Will we have enough to pay our bills? Will we have enough to take care of the trips we are planning? Will we have enough for all the other expenses we are dreaming up?
& in the midst of this conversation I am creating the very problem I dread - not having enough.
I can’t tell you how many times I have learned this same lesson. The fear & panic only send you further into the hole, not up-out of it.
I mean, logically even if I didn’t believe in The Law of Attraction & chose to spend my time worrying about the money I might not have - that doesn’t enable the dough to come any closer to me. Right?
& if I do believe in The Law of Attraction then I know it does the exact opposite. The worry & fear is pushing cash AWAY from me.
The only thing we can really ever do is GET IN ACTION. (Mind you I am saying all of this to myself as I share it with you.)
In this moment, what can I do to bring in money? If there is something I can do, do it & stop worrying. If there is nothing I can, stop worrying. (In most cases there is ALWAYS somewhere you can take action- even if it is just posting an ad on craigslist.)
Do you feel better now? I do. Where am I going to take action? I am going to start creating my Sacral Chakra course, Sacred. I think it will go live next month - ta da!
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In this moment I feel _____________________________________ although I actually desire to feel _________________________________. I have the power to choose the latter.
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