I Don't Need Your Approval Anymore 08/23/2010
 It has only recently become aware to me that I have regularly done things with the intention to have the approval of others. We all do it, don’t we? Specifically, I seek constant approval in my job by avoiding large projects that create the possibility for me to fail or let others down. I seek approval while searching for my higher purpose, by making my worth & value be placed in the hands of those that choose to comment or not comment on my blog. By those who choose to watch my videos, read my writing or compliment my spirit daily. This is no way to live; for any of us. Once again, I am giving away my power. I am leaving how I value myself up to you guys! It isn’t your job to hold me accountable or give me a pat on the back for all the good work I am doing. Sure, I greatly appreciate the feedback. But when the down fall comes, when the feedback isn’t there & I find myself with the blankets over my head wondering why they don’t love me, I am back at ground zero. Enough is enough. I’m going to take the big projects, knowing that if I fail, I will have still gained more then if I hadn’t taken the challenge at all. I’m going to keep writing & sharing my journey with the world, because my writing provides growth for me; comments or not. I am enough. I have arrived. I am ready.  Comments08/23/2010 12:29pm
Finding your power is so cool eh? 08/23/2010 1:04pm
Fantastic - isn't it great to have this sort of realization? Happy for you. Keep spreading your love. Megan Monique 08/23/2010 1:07pm
Thanks Frank! Megan Monique 08/23/2010 1:08pm
Jen, 08/23/2010 3:48pm
As always I love your honesty as you share of your moving through life. I can identify with this post especially. I however think that the issue you bring up is perhaps even more complicated than you state it and how most of us look at it. I totally agree that if you find yourself under the sheets going, "Why don't they love me," when no one responds to a post you've got some issues. But I think most of us write or compose or share something with the idea that someone will partake. If there is constantly no one partaking it gets hard to take, and I don't think that means you or whoever is dealing with it is just insecure and dying for approval. The trick is knowing the difference between approval needs and just connecting with others. I'm glad I subscribed to your blog. Kim Jenkins 08/23/2010 4:29pm
I get this. Big time. But...we keep pressing on, doing great things, loving what we do even when others don't quite share our enthusiasm (or at least don't express it). You're wonderful. :) Megan Monique 08/23/2010 5:42pm
Thank you so much Kim. I love you too! Megan Monique 08/23/2010 5:47pm
Scott, I completely agree. My hiding of the covers metaphor has never actually happened, but I would agree that if my mind went to that extreme because of lack of comments, I would indeed have some issues at hand. Megan Monique 08/24/2010 9:36am
Thanks for being here Donna & constantly supporting my journey. Love you! 08/24/2010 10:20am
gosh i'm lucky to know you. truth is sexy. as a recovering approval whore myself, i love this declaration. xoxo Megan Monique 08/24/2010 10:21am
LMAO! Thanks Lisa. I feel very blessed to know you as well. It is fun getting the approval of others, but it is even MORE fun not *needing* it. Maria 08/24/2010 11:35am
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